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Today I'm very excited to have on the show Dr.
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Donovan Smalls II.
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Donovan has 13 years of experience in education and four years as an assistant principal.
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Donovan is a dynamic educational leader, bestselling author of Beyond the Classroom, and host of the Aspiring School Leader Podcast.
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He currently serves as an assistant principal, school leadership coach, and an executive board member of the New Jersey affiliate of the National Alliance of Black School Educators.
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His mission to empower aspiring school leaders to confidently step into the leadership roles and lead with impact from day one.
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Now let's get to our conversation with Dr.
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Donovan Smalls II.
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Welcome back, everybody, to another exciting episode of the Educational Leadership Podcast.
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Today I am so excited to have on the show Dr.
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Donovan Smalls II.
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Donovan, welcome to the show.
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Thanks for having me, Jeff.
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I'm excited.
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All right, Donovan.
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I'm going to go ahead and ask you the same question that I asked everybody on this show.
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What inspired you to become an educator?
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So I really didn't see myself becoming an educator when I was young.
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I don't have that story of an inspirational teacher that I looked up to and wanted to walk in their footsteps.
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I think education really found me.
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I was one that loved sports growing up.
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I continue to love sports, played it, and that was really my path.
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I thought I was going to be a college basketball coach, which I did coach at Virginia State University for the women's basketball team for two years, really enjoyed that experience.
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Division II school, we were top 10 in the country.
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But I did undergrad, I majored in health and exercise science, health and exercise science teaching.
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And so that kind of just put me on a path of teaching that I never thought that I would fall into, right?
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I thought I would just coach.
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However, coaching and teaching have similar skills, you know, your similar passion in terms of helping young people.
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And that's what I saw myself doing for the rest of my life.
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And so I kind of fell into it and, you know, fell in love with it.
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Well, that's awesome, Donovan Yeah, it sounds like we kind of have some similar paths there when it comes to getting into education and finding coaching our way into our teaching careers.
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And so was there anything within your teaching experiences that helped you prepare you for the administration?
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The main thing I think that that helped me during teaching was the perspective of keeping students first.
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I think that everything we do as educators should be to keep students first.
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And that really became apparent when I stepped into school leadership, right?
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Because I think sometimes we can get caught up in appeasing the preferences of adults as opposed to taking care of the needs of children.
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And so as an educator, as a teacher, when I first started out, my principal used to preach that all the time.
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We have to keep kids first.
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And so now as a school leader, that's one of the things that I pride myself on and just constantly checking in with teachers, making sure that they have everything that they need so that they can be great educators, great teachers for our kids.
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So I think that's probably the number one thing is keeping the kids first.
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I really love that.
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You know, I think, you know, when you have a student-centered educational practice, you're really focused on making sure those kids are taken care of.
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And you said something there that's something that you need to do to help keep kids centered and focused is helping your teachers be supported and making sure you're helping them out and getting them to where they need to get to so they can help those students become the learners and the the thriving adults that we want them to be uh when they're school.
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So with that, kind of we're doing your teaching here.
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You've got some experience now.
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What was it that really inspired you to take that next step and become an assistant principal?
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Was it a tap on a shoulder?
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Was it you just decided I'm ready to do this?
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What was it?
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You know, it was really a pivot during COVID.
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So I taught health and physical education for four years, and then I had this desire to teach at the college level and be a college professor.
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And so I, you know, started working on my doctorate.
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I finished my doctorate degree, I defended my dissertation, and then a week later, my alma mater, Virginia State University, they called me back and they said, Hey, we have uh an assistant principal, an assistant professor position open.
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Would you be open to coming to Virginia to be a professor?
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And of course, I jumped at that opportunity because that's the reason why I got my doctorate.
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And so one year in, and then COVID hits.
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I'm thriving as a professor, but then COVID hits.
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And so, you know, a lot of institutions were facing financial burden, and so they had to make some shifts and changes.
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And so during that time, my wife happened to be, you know, getting ready to move to Cincinnati, Ohio, to finish a year of fellowship.
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And so we both went together.
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In the same month that I lost my job as a professor, I found another job as a health and PE teacher.
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And so I'm teaching at this charter school in Cincinnati, and I'm wondering, you know, uh like I'm wondering why the culture is very different from what I left as a teacher when I first started.
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You know, the the morale was down, student achievement was low.
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And so I'm trying to figure out why this is happening.
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And I'm noticing that every school isn't the same, every school leader isn't the same.
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So I'm thinking about what my pivot is going to be.
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And then instead of complaining about the problem, I figured, let me try to be the solution, right?
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And so I went back, I ended up working on my principal certification, finished that.
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My wife and I moved back to New Jersey.
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I ended up get going back to the school where I first started teaching to finish up all of my certification stuff.
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And then from there, you know, I landed my first vice principal job.
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And so that's really how I got into it.
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It was a pivot, you know.
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Unfortunately, COVID caused a lot of issues and, you know, a lot of mourning for people.
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I think it was also an opportunity for a lot of people to pivot, and that's that's literally what happened for me.
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Well, I really love how you took a negative situation and turned into a positive, right?
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Because you could have been like down and out, but you, you know what?
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I'm gonna pivot, I'm gonna figure this out.
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I really enjoy what I'm doing.
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So that's kind of interesting how you go from Virginia to Ohio, then to New Jersey, you know, kind of all these different reasons around that.
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I really enjoyed understanding, you know, that pivot story because there's things that get us into this profession, but get us into these leadership roles.
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And so I really uh appreciate you sharing that with us.
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Now, with that, you know, what are some things you have learned as a leader, you know, when it comes to being an assistant principal?
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What is like we talk about mind shift, right?
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You went from a classroom setting in your situation, PE, you're more of a gym or outside setting, depending on what you're teaching for the day.
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So, what was that shift like for you to go from classroom teacher into the assistant principal?
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For me, just thinking about the level of impact that I could have on students and allowing that to be greater than being in a classroom, right?
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I I think for me, it was as a health and physical education teacher, I was able to see every student in the building.
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And so that gave me a different perspective about learning and how some students might not necessarily be as open to having conversation in their math class, but then when they come into the gym, they're excited and they're invigorated.
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And then that's a way to get to that student and talk to them about the academic aspect of their learning.
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And so what I've learned is that there's so many ways that that students learn, and there are ways that we can impact students, but it for me, I wanted to do it on a broader scale.
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I always saw myself as a leader, even within sports.
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I was a point guard.
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And so, you know, that was one of the leadership roles that I had throughout my athletic career, which translated very easily, I think, when it came to school leadership.
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Leadership is something I'm extremely passionate about, it's something that I study.
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I'm constantly looking at life through the lens of leadership.
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And so it really was a natural progression for me, and I don't regret it at all.
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I love it.
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Awesome.
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I really appreciate you sharing that as well.
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And because a lot of people don't understand when you go from the classroom into the principalship, you know, there is a mind shift.
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You go from, you know, having your own little world here, and then, oh my goodness, I have everything else out here.
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I really like the perspective of being a PE teacher, being see, being able to see all those kids, and you kind of help build those relationships already and knowing, like, you know what, I see all these different types of learners.
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I'm not just kind of like stuck in a content area.
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I actually see everybody because I know like in Nebraska, everybody has to take PE it's required by our face.
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So, you know, you're gonna get them all on top of the road, you know, eventually.
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So I think I really, really enjoyed listening to that perspective as well.
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What are some things, you know, in your last four years being an assistant principal that you've learned about leadership?
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How have you grown in the last four years?
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One of the ways I've I've grown is to understand that as a school leader, you have to be a self-starter.
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I think one of the most not necessarily surprising things as I transition from teacher to leader, but I'd say a thing that you have to get used to is you have to manage your own time, right?
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You don't have a schedule with these are this is my prep period, this is the time that I eat lunch, this is the time that, you know, I'm able to plan, right?
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Like you literally have to create your own schedule.
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Yes, your principal is going to give you a role and responsibilities.
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However, it's up to you to be an instructional leader, to get it to classrooms, to give meaningful feedback, have those instructional conversations, right?
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Be visible.
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You have to figure all of that out.
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And so for me, that was one of like the main lessons that I've learned.
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It's you have to be a self-starter.
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You have to manage your own time.
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And you still, regardless of all of the discipline you might have to do, the lunch duty, the bus duty, you have to find time to be an instructional leader.
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So during my first year, I, you know, kind of felt like, man, I really want to be an instructional leader, but the culture of the school wasn't necessarily ready for us just popping into classrooms and doing walkthroughs.
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So that brought a little bit of frustration.
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I'm like, I this is the reason why I got into school leadership.
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But I've learned that you can also pivot in terms of being a part of a curriculum committee.
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And so now we're doing the back-end work of instruction.
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I'm still being an instructional leader, but it just might look a little different, right?
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And so I think you know, instructional leadership is extremely important, and we need to continue to find ways to express that.
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Do you have any tricks or tips you can tell people about managing your time and how you kind of get your you know, your stuff done?
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Like for me, I will list things out.
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I used to list it, but now my list becomes my Google Calendar.
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So if it's important for me, I put it on my calendar and I chuck out time throughout the day.
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So I dedicate time.
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And so something I'm doing this year that I haven't done a very good job of when you're talking about the educational or that constructional leadership piece, yeah, is actually blocking out periods of the day.
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So I block out different.
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We have block scheduling.
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So I'll take this block, this day, this block, the next day.
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I I move around the blocks and then I go, that's my dedicated walkthrough time where I will go and I will visit.
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I try to visit about three classrooms that every day that I do this.
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Now I don't do it every single day of the week, but I try to do it at least three times a week where I block out time and and do that.
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So do you have any tricks of the trade that you that helps you with that?
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Yeah, um, like you, I use Google Calendar.
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That's what I lean on.
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I lean on Google Calendar, I schedule everything there, meetings, walkthroughs, observations, post-observations.
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And then I also try to, you know, I try to get my my walkthroughs done first thing in the morning.
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So right after I'm letting uh students into the building, right after I am, you know, just walking through the hallways to make sure that everybody's safe and in classrooms, that's when I try to immediately pop into a few classrooms, have some instructional conversations, engage with students and teachers so that I'm at least, you know, making sure that it is a priority because we know that there's so many other things that can happen in the in the snap of a finger.
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And so I try to do it as soon as I can, and then maybe I'll answer some emails and then I'll go back out and and continue that visibility.
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But you started like popping in the classrooms where the students like, what's going on here?
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You know, like it was it kind of one of those they weren't used to it because I know for me, uh like that's one of the first things I did when I went from Southern Valley to Hastings is they weren't used to the principal just popping in whenever just to say hi, because it's almost like, oh my gosh, what's going on?
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Like, nah, very true.
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Now I'm like year four, and they'd be like, ah, it's just Mr.
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Linden, you know.
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So it didn't have stories like that too.
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Absolutely, absolutely.
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You know, it's interesting seeing the dynamic between different teachers and I guess, you know, their experiences because some of them are great.
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Like yesterday, one of our social studies teachers, I popped into his room, said good morning to everyone.
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And he was like, Oh, since you're here, you know, let let's let's talk about because he was doing a lesson on 9-11.
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He was like, Okay, what was your experience?
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Where were you?
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Can you talk a little bit about that?
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And so he he brought me right into the lesson, whereas others might be a little more hesitant.
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So it's interesting to see that dynamic.
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But yes, it's I always talk about like this this dynamic of like when you go through your admin program, you're taught to be an instructional leader and to get into classrooms.
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But as a teacher, you might not necessarily want principals, vice principals in your classrooms.
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So then how do you navigate that, right?
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That's that's always the question that I'm I'm constantly reflecting on.
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And so one of the strategies I try to use is just even before walking into the classroom, how can I build relationships first so that the teachers can see exactly who I am?
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So they know that I'm not trying to get them, I'm not out to try to give them any negative feedback, but like, how can we support one another throughout this process of raising student achievement?
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Yeah, no, I think you uh hit on some really great things there when you're talking about building relationships with your staff because they got to know that you care.
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And you know, they said at first, if you don't have that relationship, they might be going, Oh my gosh, what are they doing here?
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Am I in trouble?
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You know, a lot of times I have to go, ah, no, you're not in trouble.
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It's okay.
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It took them to build that rapport, but once they started realizing I'm there to help, I'm there to support, then it they were like, okay, this is gonna be a common thing, and it's gonna be there to help and and things like that.
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So I I really appreciate you uh talking about that point.
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And you know, our goal isn't to get teachers, is to say, we got you.
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You know, like we have you, we support you.
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We're not gonna we're not out to get you, you know.
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We got you on this, we want to help you become a teacher because we know the only way our building is gonna be successful is if they're successful, and the way we can do that support them.
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So I really appreciate that insight that you have there, and I really loved how the teacher brought you into the lesson.
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That's great.
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Oh, yeah, pull me right in.
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I had actually last week my English teacher came to me and said, Hey, Mr.
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Lyndon, I'm doing the uh 1984 book in English, and so she because we have an intercom system where I can speak like directly into a room, and so we have to kind of like you know, it's it's a nice system for an interview.
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That's cool.
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So I had this little thing I would say that was related to the book about 1984, like two plus two is five, and people gotta accept this fact.
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And so I like I'm the leader and I'm like the president or something.
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I'm like telling them that and so they had a really good, I did that for three periods.
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I had to talk at the time, and I would press in, I would say what I needed to say, and then the teacher would use that into the lesson.
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I always check in, hey, how did it go?
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And oh, this is great, because at first the kids uh, oh my gosh, is he broadcasting to the whole school?
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And then they realized that it was part of their lesson.
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So sometimes we get pulled in, I kind of liked it, it sounds really cool that you got pulled in.
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That's that sector of frog last year in our science class.
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So yeah, I I, you know, I really like I said, I I think the teachers actually enjoy when we're in the classroom as long as they know that they are supported and you're not trying to get them.
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I feel like that's that's kind of the vibe that that I get when you start to develop that rapport.
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They're like, oh, come in anytime, you know, yeah, and they like that visibility, they like that support, you know.
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And I feel yeah, I and I've experienced the same thing as well.
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I think the students like having you in class too, because that you'll get a build, or they get to see you in a little bit different light than being, you know, the disciplinarian, like you, you know, have to be something.
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So Arch Jonathan, talk about your best-selling book beyond the classroom.
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What motivated you to write the book and what message do you want readers to take away?
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So the motivation behind the book was really trying to serve as a mentor to aspiring leaders.
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You know, what I've learned throughout my journey and through my observation is that I feel like we put a lot of emphasis on instructional leadership, which I think is great.
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However, I think it's really important to be a leader in and of itself.
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When we talk about leadership, I mean the interpersonal skills, right?
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Being able to relate to others, but also the organizational skills.
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I think being able to lead people and the organization gives you the solid foundation to be an instructional leader.
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And so in my book, I focus a lot on practical strategies that help aspiring leaders build the capacity of teachers through relationship building and also organizational leadership.
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I've learned that some of the best leaders that I look up to actually are leaders who lead people well, right?
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And they lead the organization well.
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And so that's kind of the main premise of the book.
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And what I want readers to get from it is understanding that you cannot get instructional leadership right if you don't lead people and the organization well.
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And so that's that's really the heart of the book, helping people understand that people are the center of what we do.
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We lead people first and we lead instruction second.
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You bet.
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I mean, that's a great message because I do agree with that.
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Where if you can't lead the people, they're not gonna follow you, they're not gonna be able to make the vision or the mission that you may have come alive.
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And so being able to be a great leader, like you said, building relationships, having interpersonal skills, and I would say even having emotional intelligence on how to handle situations because I know something I'm trying to do is trying to help my teachers have build some capacity by communicating with each other and being able to have those tough conversations with each other when you're disagreeing.
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How do you have discourse with somebody that you may not agree with?
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That's important because we're all adults in this situation, and I've been in IEPs where a parent didn't like the decision that the IEP team had made.
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And I tell the parent, it's okay to disagree, it's fine.
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But trying to do this collectively and as a group, this is the decision that was made.
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And so it's one of those, you know, trying I that's one thing I'm trying to do is build my teacher capacity.
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How do you have these conversations?
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And I'll guide them through those, you know, ways and approaches and how to frame a conversation so they can be productive, but not just be a jerk about it, but actually try to come to a resolution.
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And those are skills people need to learn.
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It's hard, it's hard sometimes when you're adults.
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In my case, sometimes I call them adult children because the way the way things are.
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It's just like, dude, you gotta do it this way because if you do it this way, it's not gonna work for you.
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And so you try to help.
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That's something I do, and I really enjoy, you know, just learning about you know what you're trying to do with the book and trying to help people to build more capital.
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Do you have any stories about how the things that you've used in a book, you know, in real life, stories for examples that you could tell us about strategy or something that you can bring to life for us to give us an understanding?
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Well, I think speaking of that emotional intelligence aspect, right?
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I think when you become that school leader, you have to make sure that you are keeping your emotions in check because you are going to get conflict, right?
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You're going to have to have tough conversations with people.
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And, you know, you might have, like I remember having a parent and a student both cursing me out in my office.
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And as a leader, you have to know how to navigate those situations without you also raising to their level, right?
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I think it's important to know that yes, they might be upset, they might even curse you out.
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Like in my case, however, you're doing what's best for children.