April 26, 2026

The School Leader’s Playbook for Tough Conversations with Erica Bear and Tiffany Burns

The School Leader’s Playbook for Tough Conversations with Erica Bear and Tiffany Burns
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What does it take to have a tough conversation that is both clear and compassionate? In this episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper sits down with Erica Bear and Tiffany Burns to discuss their new book, The School Leader’s Playbook for Tough Conversations, and the practical strategies school leaders need when navigating conflict, feedback, and high-stakes communication. Erica and Tiffany unpack why these conversations are often avoided, how strong relationships and intentional preparation create better outcomes, and what leaders can do to stay calm when emotions rise. They share how to plan for difficult conversations, how to de-escalate when things go sideways, and why listening, clarity, and follow-through matter so much in leadership. The conversation also explores the role of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and connection in building trust with staff, families, and school communities. About Erika Bare & Tiffany Burns Erika Bare is the Superintendent of the South Umpqua School District. She has been an educator for over 20 years serving at every grade level in a variety of roles. Erika is a special education teacher by training. Tiffany Burns is an instructional leadership coach, university instructor, author, and former long-time principal with more than 20 years of experience in Oregon, Alaska, and Mexico. Together, they wrote Connecting Through Conversation: A Playbook for Talking with Students and The School Leaders Playbook for Tough Conversations. Their work empowers educators to help all students feel loved, understood, and a deep sense of belonging so they can learn at the highest levels. Follow Erika Bare & Tiffany BurnsWebsite:www.ConnectingThroughConversation.com


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